With all the beauty and sorrows, life is the only one to live. It is up to you that which from the charms and sorrows you pick the most.
Life is just similar to a coin, with sorrows on one hand and joys on the other. Every day you have to spin it for a toss. If sorrows are destined for the day, be sure the next day is at hand to spin it again.
Definitely, you would enjoy the joys of your share too. All that is asked from you is to be a strong sportsman of the game, which we call life.
Yesterday, if he broke up, he can be with you again tomorrow. Be optimistic in your approach and face the opposite winds with courage.
You are courageous to improve your sails against the rival storms to bring your ex-boyfriend back to your life. It is not an impossible task to accomplish.
Before hanging over with you, he was not in your living, yet somehow he came. The same can be again.
Again, you people can laugh and talk together. Blossoms can bloom again. Air can be filled with your love once more. Spring can dance around you people.
The only condition is to be with us as we know all the routes to the valley where lovers sing the songs of the union.
Following are the short steps to get from the hard times and enter the valley of companionship once again. These would definitely help you in bringing your ex-boyfriend back into your life.
1) Acknowledge and embrace the drawbacks.
Everything in our universe that has previously been done, once it was there in particular minds. It is the mind of humans from where the initiatives take place.
Work on your mind and try to acknowledge the reality that, being humans, we are no exception to drawbacks.
Everybody has positive and negative aspects. Same was he. If you have spent time with him and even after break up you want him back in your life, it clearly means that he possesses good traits in himself.
It is natural to us that when we become enraged; we forget 99 good deeds of the person and remember only one that has hurt them.
Oh, come on, dear, it’s not a blame but rather just a realistic statement. Acknowledge the truth that there was apparently one reason for the breakup, whether it was your drawback or his error of judgment.
If it was your drawback, acknowledge it and practice it to eliminate this drawback as early as possible. If it was his error of judgment, think positively that it was just a fault of analysis.
The companionship of the pleasant person should not be lost just because of a little error.
2) Put down the wall of ego.
Do you know what ego is?
“A stubborn attitude that compels you not to bend down even a little in order to maintain your false superiority. It shows that you have no respect for relations but live just to soothe your conscience.”
Can this attitude be justified?
No, it can’t be justified on any justification of the world.
That’s why we suggest you, if you are having that veil of ego on your face, just put it aside at once. It is the bitter enemy of your comforts and joys. And if you think about that, it can be the reason for your break up.
Even if it is not, you still need to eliminate it. It will pave the way towards finding your ex-boyfriend back.
Furthermore, getting rid of ego would allow you to be polite and courteous.
And these values would sharpen the venture of getting him back.
3) Think mature and be mature.
It is said, “The more you get matured, the less you get hurt.”
True it is. It is maturity that shields us from many self-created troubles. Being mature, you find your head cool.
And that cool head further leads to solving the complex riddles of life. So conditions and circumstances demand maturity. You need to be mature from the hereafter.
Your mature thinking would make mature decisions. And your mature decisions would help you in getting your ex-boyfriend back in your life.
In this regard, to get maturity, try to look at the things beneath the surface because appearance is almost deceptive. If he was found guilty at the time of breakup, now being mature, you can understand his position.
And if you take the point lightly, he can be given one more chance.
The following contributor that helps you in being mature, is to be slow in your assuming. Always take time before you respond. Then it will be expected that you would know the truth.
4) Be realistic in your approach.
Being realistic in one’s approach saves him/her from the bumble of emotional attitude. Usually, in most of the tragic events, it is our emotional attitude that handles the chaos.
Our realistic approach takes care of us from the sudden emotional burst.
Here, it is suggested to be logical in your access. Try to understand the situation and mold yourself according to it.
Above all, your mental solace and happiness should be your objective instead of the snobbery of being superior. Nothing is superior in life than being with the one with whom is the heart.
5) Be a thing of beauty.
Above mentioned points were about the change in mental behavior. While now will discuss the certain physical changes that you should develop in yourself.
In this concern, the first one is to work on your physical appearance.
We know you are a pretty girl. But we want you to be prettier than ever. Is there any boyfriend who doesn’t count his girl friends’ beauty?
We are sure there is no one.
Catching a glance at you, the thing your boyfriend likely glimpses first is your physical appearance. Here physical appearance means both the appearance of facial physique and physique of the body.
If you literally want him back in your life, don’t spoil yourself in his departure. It won’t work.
Rather, you need to pay good attention to adorning yourself. Adorn never means to wear makeup. Adorn means to take a good diet and to shape yourself there in the gym. It can also be done by a workout at home.
By working on your physical appearance, you would get the job half done. So be a thing of beauty and get him again on his duty.
6) If he is in sight, be courteous and polite.
Courtesy and politeness can possess the power to melt the stone hearts. These two cost nothing but can win you the world.
And you, too, want your world back in your life. So stay assured that if he comes into view, he may not pass without noticing your politeness and courtesy.
If he is not in sight, the gong and clamor of your politeness and courtesy should reach to him.
From here to onward, start working on such two essential values. Enhance their effectiveness if you have had those before.
Don’t create conflicts with anyone in your frustration.
Never abuse and accuse others of your breakup. The chin must be up and grin and you should bear the negative remarks with a smile.
This would not matter how harsh things are; your dignity of character should remain intact. If he comes close to talk, you should behave politely.
But keep in mind, your tone should not carry the element of flattering.
7) Remember your self-respect.
Even being all courteous and polite, bring your self-respect ahead.
Your self respect should never be hurt. All the good gestures that we have suggested are to make you happy again with your self-respect but not gambling about it.
Work on all the tips, but please be aware that your self-respect should be a priority.
8) Be confident in your strategy.
Your confidence would be key to achievement in getting your ex-boyfriend back. Be confident that no problem how much pain and pang you are belonging now, surely it will pass.
It is just the jam, and after it, you would enjoy your partnership with him again.
Being confident, it’s time to recover competently from a shattered heart and walk onto the greener pastures.
Try to work on a formula that look good and feel good.
However, it looks shallow but actually, its not. Take care of yourself and try to illustrate yourself in a confident manner.
Feeling positive towards you would prepare you more self-confident.
Even by entering the room, people can assess your confidence level. So in place of hunching over, erect your shoulders and having your chest out, look forward.
While having a talk, have an eye contact with others, put a smile on your lips and be clear in your tone and words.
Remember to hang out a compliment because it not only makes others feel great but also boosts up your confidence.
Genuine compliment demands to look good in others. And by looking good in others, we find good in ourselves that takes our confidence to another level.
9) Don’t beg help but be a helping hand to him.
Don’t consider yourself helpless. You need no help as you have developed yourself more than ever. Your independent attitude would mean that you can be okay either way.
You need no help from him. Rather, if he seeks your helping hand in any of his daily affairs, be there with all smiles. It would realize to him what a blessing you were to him.
He would start craving you again in his heart if, at first, he does not show his incline towards you.
Anyway, your helping hand would signal him that you would love to be back with him, but at the same time, you are flawlessly able to get on without him.
If he doesn’t wish for you, he is at a loss, not you.
Believe us; you certainly have no idea how desirable this can be to your ex-boyfriend.
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10) Give him the benefit of doubt.
Mostly breakups are the outcome of a sudden emotional spurt.
In this state, a sense of sensibility doesn’t work. We just follow the factors that are above on the surface and see them with all negativity.
In this kind of position, it grows nearly impossible to access the actual reasons. So the issue remains in some sort of doubt whether that was so or not.
We are revealing that doubt and suggest that you render him the good of that particular doubt. Ask your heart to feel good about him as it was his good that helped you in becoming partners.
Then assure yourself that breakup was just an emotional decision and emotional decisions never carry weight and they should not, too.
Giving him this position of doubt would make him feel more pleasant about you and there are chances he soon would be with you.
11) Avoid explaining him in your friend’s circle.
Discussing someone among friends means discussing his merits or demerits.
When you are about to discuss him with your friends, it means there are both possibilities, either you would describe his good traits or bring before his drawbacks.
It is really risky. You are living through a challenging time. You are not feeling normal. Even if you don’t aim at his backbiting, it can happen unconsciously.
So it would be a better option not to bring him into the discussion while you are having a gathering with your friends.
It would lower the chances of forgetting him forever. Remember, all the apparent friends are not friends.
In the disguise of friendship, there are some who plan to harm you.
So if you discuss him while having that false friend with you, there are possibilities he would go to your ex and tell him your negative remarks about him.
So remain distant from the notion of discussing him among your friends.
12) Continue with the short space.
Acquire all the best that is above mentioned and continue with the short space. It is common for human beings that they don’t value the things that they get without any effort.
To them, those are most valuable who cost huge.
Giving him space would realize him how much you are valuable to him.
By this, you would also be missed by him. And certainly, when he ends up missing you, he will struggle to make a contact you. He will be crazy about you. All this would pave the road to his return.
By this little space, you could also prepare yourself with better charms to welcome him back. In most cases of breakups, it is the short space that does the trick.
So we suggest you to continue your work keeping in mind the value of space.
13) Be nice more than ever.
The outer state is the projection of the inner state. Remaining depressed will make you a bored fellow. You would lose your charms not just for yourself but also for others.
We just can’t win the battle with sick behaviors. We should be nice and energetic to shift the strategy in our direction.
So initially, be kind to yourself. Allow yourself some alone time and reason to be pleasant with you.
You will find much around that can fascinate you, so why to stay dump when it is of no use?
Stop burning your blood and set the goal to be nice to yourself. You should not hurt that pretty girl who is inside you. She has all the rights to take the best of you.
Give her your nicer side; she would bring back your ex-boyfriend to you.
14) Work on your walks and talks.
Walks and talks mean the feminine beauty of physique and behavior. Make your styles alluring.
Though you are pretty enough to win his consideration back, rather by practicing walks and talks, you would almost compel him to come back.
Beauty also lies in those actions that we utilize while dealing. Adorn your dealings with captivating manners and actions.
It is the thing of which boys dream of. It can also be the last pin in that coffin of his indifference and disregard toward you.
By adopting the best of walks and talks would increase your beauty and who the dumb is there who would not like to be a partner of a pretty girl like you?
15) Are you a better girl now?
After covering all the aspects that we have mentioned above, do you think you are a better girl now? Certainly, you are.
A bunch of nice in the world is present that sounds best and can make things better. But there is a condition to it. Do you know what that condition is?
It is how you act upon and utilize that.
We have suggested to you the best suggestions to regain your boyfriend. But these would work only if you use these effectively.
We are sure you are about to do it and would come back to relationcounseling.org to share your pleasure of reunion.